Love or Like?
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‘Love’ (being ‘in love’)
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- is a feeling, based mostly on
- emotions
- novelty:
- the heart flutters,
- with feelings of pleasure,
- and physical desire, and
- is fleeting
- unless reinforced by choice.
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‘Like’
- is different and
- is based on
- mutual respect,
- common interests,
- trust,
- authenticity, and
- natural preference for
- positive, and supportive interactions,
- (friendship);
- is certainly not ‘blind’ and
- ‘love’ may not last without ‘like!!’.
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You can build a lasting relationship on ‘like.’
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‘Like’ can become ‘love’!!
Finding Love is like Finding Nemo – For Guys
- It’s like looking for lost treasure
- It’s like hunting prey
- (excuse the non-pc expression!)
- You need all the information you can get
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- Maps, last known location, last known contacts
- What does it involve, how will you know that you have found it?
- A Profile of the ‘ideal mate’
- Then construct a very wide confidence interval
- Where ‘she’ hangs out (likely to be found)
- What SHE is looking for.
- You need hunting/investigative Skills
- Investigative skills:
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- ‘Hunting’ skills,
- Be authentic:
- can’t hide the real you forever;
- character like toothpaste
- will come out under pressure.
- Start and hold interesting conversations,
- focus on the other person,
- about common interests,
- not just about yourself!!
- laugh at yourself!
- personal grooming
- You have the right kind of preparation/tools
- You take care of business:
- You earn a living.
- You speak up, out.
- You get it!
- Life, love, and relationships are wonderful, satisfying, rewarding, fulfilling, the best, ‘can’t do without it’, great!
- Life, love and relationships are hard, difficult, unpredictable, messy, risky.
- Life, love, and relationships are worth it!
- You are not perfect
- (not a god either!)
- You have your own imperfections
- skeletons/weaknesses/failures/pet peeves
- So accept hers!
- You are willing to work
- Put in some sweat equity
- “Nothing in the world is worth having
- or worth doing
- unless it means effort, pain, and difficulty…”
- You are willing to take a risk
- Be personally invested,
- Take the next step
- Jump off the plane and trust that
- your training and preparation and that
- the parachute will open!
- “A ship in the harbor is safe,
- but that is not ships are built for”!
- Risk rejection!
HAPPY FINDING (HUNTING!!!!) – YOU CAN DO THIS – LET’S DO THIS!
We are Designed by God to Reach out to Him and to Others; To Reach Out for Love and Towards our Dreams!
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Reach!! 