Sample Conversation Starters!!

Continuing from the last Post

Here are some conversation starters for you:

  • (FIRST!!!!!:  Be safe, Be smart, Be Wise!)
  • “Long day huh …how has it been?”
  • “That’s a nice bag/t-shirt/name/car/hair style/color…”  followed by,
  • (with a warm smile!!!)
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    “I like it, looks expensive, bet you got a good deal on it right?”

  • “Is that your favorite color?”
    • I  once asked a lady (a stranger) who had “Queen” on her t-shirt:
      • “What does that say?  Are you the ‘queen’?”
        • “You must have everything you need!”
        • And the conversation went on from there!
        • By the end of the conversation, I met her family, and a new and very important contact  for my ministry!
  • “I like (model of car), what has been your experience since you got it?”
  • “Is that your favorite, what do you like about it?”

The key is to remember to keep the focus on the other persons in a genuine way.

Some more pointers:  Remember, it’s not about you it’s all about them,

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  • Yes, them, that total stranger!
  • People want to know you care
  • People want someone to talk to and who will listen
    • Someone I know who works retail and says
      • it is amazing how customers open up and talk
        • about their lives
          • when they know they have a listening ear!
  • Be interested in them in a non-threatening and genuine way
  • Ask open ended questions
    • Questions that start with “What”, “How” “Where” etc.
    • Questions that allow the person to express themselves
      • Not just answer with a “yes” or “no”.
  • If someone has a name tag on
    • say at the cash register, a bank teller, an attendant, or a wait staff
    • call them by their name and
      • smile, look them in the eye as you speak to them!
  • As always, be safe!
  • Lets’s do this!!!
  • You can do it!
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How to Start and Keep Conversations Going!

Is that you in the waiting room?

  • On the train, in a room full of people you do not know?
  • Wanting to start a conversation
    • with a total stranger
    • but don’t know how?
  • Here is a simple guide.

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The key is to focus on other people

  • Focus not on yourself;
    • your fears, (in the moment)
    • your feelings,
    • your dreams,
    • how you look or sound,
    • your problems, rather
    • focus on their fears, problems, dreams, feelings….
  • Be truly interested in them!
  • Think:  “How can I make their world just a little better?”
  • Put them at ease:
    • smile,

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    • introduce yourself;
    • be open about yourself too;
    • authentic compliments go a long way;
    • let them invite you into ‘their space’, and
    • let them be in charge of ‘their space’;
    • ask questions and then – – – – – listen!

What if they do not want to talk?

  • That’s alright.
  • You only wanted to be a ‘friend’.
  • If it was all about them, then
    • it’s their loss.
  • You will be surprised
    • how many people wants someone to listen to them
    • how easy it really is,
      • once you make it about the other person!

Check back tomorrow for some examples of conversation starters!

Love, Finding Nemo 3 – for Gals

Finding Love!

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  • Finding Nemo 3 – for gals,
    • is like selling your house.
      • Location: where you are;
        • What will never change about you.
        • Deal with bitterness and other skeletons!
        • Develop inner beauty!
          • Qualities that never change!
      • Marketing:
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        • Interact widely, appropriately.
        • Take an interest in and
          • do stuff for others.
      • ‘Staging’: Put ‘your best foot (look) forward.’
        • Some styling, (appropriate fashion) for the times will help.
        • You are a beautiful flower;
          • let it show!
          • ‘Curb Appeal’
            • makes buyers want to see what’s inside!
      • Remember: Guys still
        • look for ‘a good mom’,
        • want to have a stable ‘home front’
          • not a war zone;

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        • want to make ‘a good deal’,
          • value not a cheap knockoff.
      • Be willing to accept lower but reasonable ‘offers’.
        • if you want your ‘house’ to sell.
  • And what if your ‘house’ does not sell?
    • Continue to ‘list’ it, but
    • like it and
    • love it!
    • Be content to live in it!
    • Be at peace with it.
    • Make it a ‘home’
      • where God is welcome to stay
        • anytime and all the time!

Love! Finding Nemo 2

Love or Like?

  • ‘Love’ (being ‘in love’)

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    • is a feeling, based mostly on
      • emotions
      • novelty:
        • the heart flutters,
        • with feelings of pleasure,
        • and physical desire, and
    • is fleeting
      • unless reinforced by choice.
  • ‘Like’

    • is different and
    • is based on
      • mutual respect,
      • common interests,
      • trust,
      • authenticity, and
      • natural preference for
        • positive, and supportive interactions,
        • (friendship);
    • is certainly not ‘blind’ and
    • ‘love’ may not last without ‘like!!’.
  • You can build a lasting relationship on ‘like.’

  • ‘Like’ can become ‘love’!!

Love…Finding Nemo, For Guys

Finding Love is like Finding Nemo – For Guys

  • It’s like looking for lost treasure
  • It’s like hunting prey
    • (excuse the non-pc expression!)
    • You need all the information you can get
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      • Maps, last known location, last known contacts
      • What does it involve, how will you know that you have found it?
      • A Profile of the ‘ideal mate’
        • Then construct a very wide confidence interval
          • (margin of error)
      • Where ‘she’ hangs out (likely to be found)
      • What SHE is looking for.
        • Be that person!!!

    • You need hunting/investigative Skills
      • Investigative skills:
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        • See above.
      • ‘Hunting’ skills,
        • Be authentic:
          • can’t hide the real you forever;
          • character like toothpaste
            • will come out under pressure.
        • Start and hold interesting conversations,
          • focus on the other person,
          • about common interests,
          • not just about yourself!!
          • laugh at yourself!
        • personal grooming
    • You have the right kind of preparation/tools
      • You take care of business:
        • You earn a living.
        • You speak up, out.
        • You get it!
          • Life, love, and relationships are wonderful, satisfying, rewarding, fulfilling, the best, ‘can’t do without it’, great!
          • Life, love and relationships are hard, difficult, unpredictable, messy, risky.
            • All at once!
          • Life, love, and relationships are worth it!
      • You are not perfect
        • (not a god either!)
        • You have your own imperfections
          • skeletons/weaknesses/failures/pet peeves
          • So accept hers!
    • You are willing to work
      • Put in some sweat equity
      • “Nothing in the world is worth having
        • or worth doing
        • unless it means effort, pain, and difficulty…”
          • Theodore Roosevelt 
    • You are willing to take a risk
      • Be personally invested,
        • money,
        • time
        • effort

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      • Take the next step
      • Jump off the plane and trust that
        • your training and preparation and that
        • the parachute will open!
      • “A ship in the harbor is safe,
        • but that is not ships are built for”!
          • John A. Shedd
      • Risk rejection!

HAPPY FINDING (HUNTING!!!!) – YOU CAN DO THIS – LET’S DO THIS!

Mountain Top!

The place

  • where one feels closer to God/heaven
    • than the troubles and problems
      • of the world,
  • of peace and tranquility,

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  • where time stands still,
  • where joy unspeakable exists!

How do we get there in prayer?

  • Renounce evil.
  • Push past
    • the mental/intellectual distractions
      • Is the stove off?
      • Did I respond to that email?
        • If so, can it be misconstrued, how?
      • Did I pay that bill?
      • If only my team did not make that play
        • we could have won that championship!
      • What did my spouse/child/sibling/co-worker mean/do when ….?
      • That dress was not right for the wedding reception!
      • The latest political controversy!
      • My elbow is itching,
        • is that an infection?
  • Push past,
    • The ‘Time-Keeper’ Stage
      • How much time has passed
        • since I started praying?
      • ‘Has it been 5, 10, 20 minutes already?’
      • ‘How much longer can I keep this up?’
    • ‘Gimme gimme’ stage
      • ‘Lord, bless ….’
      • ‘Lord, I really need this money/job…’
      • ‘Lord, if only you would heal…’
      • ‘Lord, please help…’
    • “this is ‘fun’, stage”
      • I love this prayer song
      • I am having fun singing this worship song
      • This is a one man concert
      • This feels good
  • Push past,
    • The problem solving stage
      • Issues appear more clearly to the mind while praying.
        • Problem 1
          • This is the main issue
          • This is the solution
        • Problem 2
          • This is the key problem
          • I can resolve it by doing ‘a’, ‘b’, and ‘c’.
      • This is useful
        • I got to get to it, right now!
        • Stop the prayer, be practical, take the next step!

Now you are at the top what do you do!

  • Praise!  Praise! Praise!
  • Holy, Holy, Holy!
  • Worthy, are you Lord!
  • May your will Be done!
  • Let Your Kingdom come!
  • Be glorified!
  • Pure Praise! Pure Worship!
  • Mountain Top Worship!
  • Peace, Joy in the Lord!
  • Time stands still!

But you got to go back down

  • from the Mountain top to the earth
  • to live among people, and
  • let the Glory shine through you!

Believe!!

Believe!!

  • You can do it!!
  • It’s hard to keep believing after
    • the latest failure,
    • the latest missed objective
    • the latest disappointment
    • the latest fall,
  • But don’t give up.
    • Your success depends on your willingness
      • to keep on trying.
  • Never give up!!

Joshua 1.9 (NIV)

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  • Have I not commanded you?
    • Be strong and courageous.
    • Do not be afraid; 
    • do not be discouraged, 
      • for the Lord your God will be with you
        • wherever you go.”

We are Designed by God to Reach out to Him and to Others; To Reach Out for Love and Towards our Dreams!