How do we recover from ‘defeat?’

• The pregnancy test came back negative.
  • Again!
• The lab tests came out positive:
  • you do have the disease!
• You failed the comprehensive final exam
  • Can’t graduate.
  • Can’t advance to the next level.
  • You are not going to be the professional you always wanted to be
    • nurse, doctor, engineer, lawyer, certified accountant, analyst…
    • Not just yet!

• Your application for the position was turned down;
  • someone else got it because
    • they were better qualified, better suited.
• You lost the competition;
  • It was so close, but someone else was faster, stronger, smarter, had a bit more
    • again!
• Your significant other walked out on you;
  • you have tried everything
    • but they still decided to walk away.
  • Friends and family have given up trying to talk to him/her.
  • Counseling has not worked.
  • Prayers (many) seem not to have worked.
  • Giving selflessly to the relationship has not worked
    • either!
• Your grown children won’t take correction.
  • They refuse to follow the law, guide their family, manage their finances, their health, and
  • trouble, like a train from a mile away is heading their way
    • you can see it, you can hear it coming!

First,

• Separate the event,
  • ‘What happened’
  • from WHO YOU ARE!
    • your innate, God-given value
      • unique
      • equal to that of every other person on the planet
      • possessing the same one unit of life
      • having the same number of hours in a day, days in a month, etc.
      • defined by qualities you posses
        • loyal, loving, sincere, trusting, diligent
        • gifted, patient, kind, selfless, etc. 
    • Someone who is loved
      • by God (certainly)
      • by loving family (children, parents, siblings, friends,
        • when this is the case)
      • by the right kind of person
        • when they get to know you
        • if they get to know you
        • it’s their choice not yours
        • it’s their loss if they don’t
    • Someone who can still succeed!!

Next Steps Tomorrow

You can do it!  Let’s Do This!

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